Please Pray For Us

My SIL Ate Beth, her husband Kuya JR and Son Angelo.
Just passed away at 2am CA Time. This is a very difficult
time for us. Please pray for the repose of their soul and
Please pray for us na naiwan nila na kayanin namin na
wala sila

What Really Happened

This is what I found on the Net regarding Ate Beth's accident

Three killed in hit-and-run crash near Lake Skinner
7:25 AM Mon, Jun 30, 2008 | Permalink | Comments (0)
Posted by: PE News

Three Winchester residents, including a 4-year-old boy, were killed Sunday night in a hit-and-run crash near Lake Skinner, authorities said.

Initial reports from the California Highway Patrol indicated that the three fatalities were all in one vehicle and that the driver of the other vehicle fled.

In addition to the child, a 48-year-old man and a 36-year-old woman were killed, coroner's news releases said. Their names were being withheld pending notification of family.

Details about the crash, which occurred about 8 p.m. near the entrance to Lake Skinner on Warren Road, were not immediately available this morning.

A Blogger Event

Went to my First Major Blogger's event last Friday
sponsored by Coke Zero. Had so much fun even my
companions who were non bloggers had a great time.
Food was overflowing and Drinks were also overflowing.

Me with Tita Milette , Ate Nane and Tita Noemi

Was also glad to finally meet Tita Dine and saw Tita Noemi again.
Was able to meet one of Philbert's office mates.

Have another blogger's event on Friday sana
di ako ma disappoint.I really hope not
but whatever happens we're just there
to enjoy the company of friends, the games
and sige na nga the swags. O sige na the lastly yung
food hahaha!!

Coming Home

I went to Assumption last Tuesday to fix something.
A lot has changed and yet for some reason I still have that
feeling that the school is warm and inviting
and welcoming me. I could really feel the Assumption
Spirit telling me welcome home.Assumption is not
just a school. It will always be a special part of me.
It is there that I transformed myself.
Part of who I am I owe it to Assumption.
Found this photos of the new Assumption chapel
on the web:

Waiting...

I hate waiting.. sa totoo lang ayoko talaga pero I
endure it kasi wala akong choice.
I've been other people's blogs lately and they
express irritation for banks and their staff.
Ako naman I hate waiting in hospitals
or clinics. Minsan kasi walang system in place
na papuntahin ka sa room na ito when in fact
sa ibang room ka naman talaga dapat pumunta.
Tapos most of the clinic walang P.A. system
so di mo naman maririnig na tinatawag ka
na pala. Sasabihin nyo eh di dapat wag
ka aalis. Kaso di naman puede andun ka lang
syempre something always needs to be
done like go to to the washroom or
go to the nurse station.

Another major pet peeve ay pag late ang
doctor fine I get it may operation or may ibang clinic.
I could understand that pero mas naiirita ako
na di man lang sila nagsasabi dun sa clinic
na male late sila. Para naman maabisuhan
yung mga tao na naghihintay. Is their time
more precious than ours? Saka para namang
libre yung pag papa check up namin.
Di naman yun health center ano.

The tests came out na nga pala.. Very depressing sya
para sa akin. Kaya nga ayoko muna i post
parang may sense of denial pa ata ako. Hoping that
If don't talk about it. It will go away and I'll
wake up tomorrow na okay na ako. But I know
that it's far from reality.

Had a great day today despite the rains.
Despite the fact that it was bed weather today
we didn't stay in bed. Went to mass at around
5:30 and ate at Hai Shin Lou.
Which in my book this is the best Chinese
Restaurant in town. The service is great
the food is great. Lahat ng food nila masarap
wala talagang di masarap. My favorite is the swahe,
the duck dish(forgot the name), lobster and
the fish lip soup.. see masarap sya na I can't even decide
kung alin ang pinaka favorite dish ko. saka the food is not
full of MSG and definitely not oily. It's pricey but it's the best..
Ay grabe sa sobrang kabusugan feeling ko kailangan na ako
buhatin pag uwi. Kawawa naman yung bubuhat.

Pag uwi ko nakita ko nakahiga na si Joshwa
which is VERY UNUSUAL. Pag hawak ko may sinat sya
nahawa nang colds from Adrianne. Pinunasan sya then
natulog uli. Buti na lang walang pasok bukas
para makapahinga si Joshwa. Hirap talaga
pag maysakit mga bata particularly si Joshwa.
Kasi pag maysakit sya di ko malaman saan ang
masakit di kasi sya nakakasabi kung saan ang
masakit.

Scrapbook Day

Had a great day.. finally was able to attend a scrapbook gathering.
Na miss ko talaga sya kasi talagang we've evolved na.
Di lang kami basta scrapbook buddies talagang friends
kami talaga. We're there for each other through thick and
thin and we support each other. Kaya nga I look forward to
our monthly gatherings.

Make a Smilebox scrapbook

Random Photos of Adrianne

Random Photos of Adee at 7 months.. Blurred yung iba kasi lahat ito kuha mula sa cell phone

Andie's Latest Photo

I saw Andie's latest photo sa friendster and I had to save a

copy of my own. Malaki na sya 8 na sya. Not a day goes

by when I don't think of her.

Some might think na just because we have a daughter of

our own means na nakalimutan ko na sya.Definitely

not true!!!

COMMON CHARARCTERISTICS OF ASD CHILDREN

Emotions

Rage/anger/hurt may all be expressed in unexpected ways
Perfectionism
Easily overstimulated by sound, crowds, lights, smells
Inside feeling not matching outside behavior

Motor Skills

Difficulty with some skills requiring motor skill development
Gross motor skills - riding bike, swimming, crawling
Fine motor skills - handwriting, tying shoes
May have some advanced, age-appropriate skills while other age-appropriate skills are delayed, i.e., tying shoes before climbing stairs
Unusual walking gait or clumsiness
Difficulty with motor skills that require visual perception accuracy, i.e., walking through a parking lot, revolving door or turnstiles, participating in sports, guiding a shopping cart

Language

Pronoun reversal
Excellent vocabulary; may sound like "The Little Professor"
Conversational language may appear stilted
Speaks with stock phrases or phrases borrowed from other situations or people
Makes honest, but often inappropriate observations
Has difficulties adjusting volume and speed in speech
Problems with prosody; irregular accenting and inflection used in conversation
Literal language: difficulty understanding figures of speech, similes, parodies, allegories, etc.
Speech may have started very early in development or may have started then stopped for a period of time
Repeats last word or phrases several times (echolalia)
Difficulty understanding some language, i.e., directional terms easily confused

Perseveration - Continued or repetitive activity or actions:

1. the uncontrollable repetition of a word, phrase, or gesture.

2. The spontaneous recurrence of a thought, image, phrase, or tune in the mind
Obsession - the fact or state of being obsessed with an idea, desire, emotion, etc.
Compulsions - an irresistible, repeated, irrational impulse to perform some act
Fascination with rotation
Many and varied collections
Redirection very difficult (changing focus or thinking from one activity or idea to another)
One emotional incident can determine the mood for the rest of the day; can't let emotions pass quickly

Social Cues

Difficulty reading facial expression and emotion in another person
Difficulty understanding body language
Difficulty understanding the rules of conversation
Difficulty understanding group interactions
Too much or too little eye contact
Difficulty understanding others' humor
Problems recognizing faces out of the usual setting or known context (face-blindness or prosopagnosia)
Stand-offish or overly friendly
May adopt others' behaviors, speech or dress habits to aid in more fluid communication and social adaptation

Senses

Very sensitive or undersensitive to light, pain, taste, touch, sound, smell
May have injuries of which they are not aware
May experience physical pain from oversensitivity to light, sound, touch
Very picky eater, both in selections of foods and in the way they are presented on the plate
May crave specific touch, taste, smell, sight, sound, lights
Over-sensitive to change in surroundings, people, places
Over stimulation may result from too many verbal directions or instructions

Comfort Skills

Desires comfort items to produce calming effect - blankets, stuffed animals
May need external (outside) stimulation for calming - brushing, soothing sound, rotating object
Comforted by minor motor stimulations - rocking, humming, tapping fingers, toes, sucking, rubbing fingertips in circles or on seams of clothing
May need separate space or area to decompress
Unusual attachment to object
Self-stimulation i.e., rocking, tapping, humming, etc.,to increase concentration and attention or to calm down and relax

Neurological Function

Erratic neurological function
Attention difficulties
Irregular sleep patterns
Understanding and working with time concepts difficult
Sensory processing disorders (how the brain processes information it receives from the sensory organs)
Visual processing disorders
Auditory processing disorders
Sensory integration disorders

New Situations, Patterns, People

Rule-oriented
Prefers known patterns with little unexpected surprises
Prefers familiar places, clothing, people
Difficulty with transitions when changing activities
Difficulty making and maintaining friendships (especially peer friendships); more successful with adults than other children or young people

Today is our 9th Bf-Gf anniversary. Ako para sa akin di ko talaga sya
nakakalimutan kasi this is all about the two of us. Si Philbert
naman mas naalala nya yung wedding anniversary. I was happy
and perky was in a really great mood until I heard something that
burst my bubble so to speak.

My MIL has been talking to my HELP again tawagin na lang
natin syang si Pokwang at chini-chissmiss ako. Kesyo kaya daw
naging special child si Joshwa kasi di naman daw ako ang gusto
ng anak nya. My Gosh parang sineduce ko ang anak nya.
Nag init ulo ko kasi dahil di nya matanggap na may Autism
si Joshwa.Ako ang sinisisi nya kasi parang inakit ko ang anak nya
ano ba!!!!! I can now start to feel the hypertension medicine
kicking in na. Gusto sya kausapin but because I promised
myself that whatever she does and says I will not confront her
anymore papalamapasin ko na lang.

Breathe in and Breathe Out!!!!

The Mean Neighbor

Naiinis ako sa sarili ko kasi feeling ko ang sungit ko talaga.
Medyo irritable ako lately not just with Philbert
pero sa lahat as in parang ang dali maubos ng patience ko.
Di ko alam kung dahil sa medication ko kasi medyo elevated
ang blood pressure ko so I had to take something para
bumababa sya.

Kanina habang naglalakad kami pauwi na ako may mga bata
nagtatakbuhan natamaan ako tapos nagbato pa ng bola
na made from Paper Mache' so medyo matigas
grabe!!! I snapped nasigawan ko yung bata as in wala ka bang
sasabihin. Tinignan ako sabi ko ni hindi ka man lang ba
mag sasabi ng sorry di ka ba tinuruan ng Mommy mo
mag sorry. Pag kita ko andun ang nanay nya sa may kabilang
corner nanlilisik na yung mata at umuusok na ang ilong sa akin.
Sinabihan ko na rin yung nanay sabi ko turuan nyo ang anak
nyo nakasakit sya di man lang marunong sorry with that
pumasok na ako. I would really understand kung with
special needs yung mga bata at nakasakit sila. Pero
malalaki na itong mga ito mga around 8 years old.

I felt so guilty pero something in me snapped as in
lumabas na lang sya bigla. Pagpasok ko
sumakit talaga batok ko. The kids will now know me
as the mean neighbor who lives in Unit ______.

FATHER’s DAY

1. How long were you together before you got hitched? Exactly 1 year. We met May 1999 got together June 1999 and got married July 2000

2. What made you fall in love with hubby from the start?
I wasn't nung start but eventually he won me over.
He's mabait, walang kabisyo bisyo, and has a very great sense of humor.

3. What's the best gift you ever received from him?
Baduy man at cheesy pero yung pagmamahal nya.
He's a very complicated person pero I know that he loves me.

4. What is hubby's best traits? Worst traits?
Best traits: Yun nga walang bisyo di umiinom, di naninigarilyo, di mabarkada.Pagkagaling sa office umuuwi agad. Di lumalabas pag weekends.
Worst traits: Sumpong nya.. grabe pag sinumpong sya I call it his
monthly period. Pag tinopak sya as in tinotopak talaga sya. Hirap
hulihin ang ugali kasi minsan akala mo nag joke yun pala seryoso na sya.

5. What traits/mannerism/character did your child/children inherent
from hubby?
With Joshwa pareho sila ng ugali eh. As in yung weird traits like di
kumakain ng ininit na pagkain. Pag pinagsasabihan mo mahilig
mag walk out.

6. Let's say you and your child/children are talking about daddy, what
do you want to tell your kids about their dad that they don't know?
Daddy is very talented he learned to play the guitar on his own.

7. What is one thing Daddy cannot live without (materially)?
His computer

8. If hubby can read this, what's your message for him?
Honey,
happy fathers day!!! you are a good husband and
you are the best dad. The kids are lucky to have you
I love you.

9. What "pet name" did your father call you when you were little?
Feel free to elaborate on the name's history (If you didn't have one,
what do you wish you were called by him back then)
Leirs.. di ko alam kung bakit basta yun talaga tawag nya sa akin
ever since.

10. What qualities does your husband have in common with your father?
(good & bad)
-Opposites sila talaga.. Philbert is very quiet. Papa ko naman makuento.

11. What was your first impression of your father-in-law the first time
you met him or were introduced to him?
-Very nice. Made me feel at ease.

12.What 3 words can describe your hubby as a father?
-Great, patient and very sweet.

13. What do you plan to give or do for hubby for Father's Day?
Wala kasi we're really not big on the gift giving.

Tests Again..

Went to the office to submit my requirements.. The HR contact
person said that I need to go to the clinic for another
consultation..

Since I'm in the area I decided to go today which
is actually not a good time becauseYaya is on a day off.
Good thing that our helper was able to watch the kids.
I thought I was done with the tests but the cardio doctor
said he needed more tests. So I have
to go back to the office again on Monday get a referral form
so that I can go back to the clinic and finish the tests already.

But this is actually an opportunity to find out
If I'm really healthy and fit to work and if not then I
can find out what's really wrong and get better.

Kainis

I'm so happy! Was able to meet the teacher and she
wanted to see him before he starts. It was a school that
I already dismissed but I decided to take a second look.
It wasn't what I wanted but the teacher was the sort
of teacher that I wanted for Joshwa. So I took a chance
and decided to ask if she still had a slot for Joshwa there's
still a 10am to 12nn slot.

I was already rushing Joshwa had a 1 PM appointment
with the school. Joshwa was having a tantrum because
he wanted to use the computer and didn't want to eat.
For him to focus I turned off the Television and when
he couldn't watch the TV went straight for the laptop.
But I was way ahead of him when he saw the laptop
I have already turned it off and so he wanted to
use Philbert's computer. Philbert was seated on the bench.
Joshwa pulled his shirt from the back causing him to
fall backwards. So there he was sprawled on the floor and
he was blaming me. Kasi daw dapat pinayagan na lang
mag computer and mag watch ng TV. Para daw di na
mag iiyak.

Nag init talaga ang ulo ko kasi dapat pagdating kay
Joshwa united kami pagdating sa discipline.
Tapos naawa sya pag umiiyak pag nag tantrums naman
si Joshwa tapos sya inaaway. Ako naman sinisisi bakit
ganun daw si Joshwa.Saka we shouldn't be blaming
and having an argument on how to deal with Joshwa
infront of Joshwa. Matalino si Joshwa and I'm sure that
in some way he can understand na kung ano nangyayari.

Scared

I have to do another test tomorrow. Just to be sure
I'm fit to work. I'm nervous because last time I
had my urinalysis they say that my creatinine
is so high It affected my kidney function
that I had to be confined for 5 days.
They told me to go see a doctor after
I give birth. It's been 7 months and I just found
the time to do it now. I'm scared of what I might find out.

Please include me in your prayers

What a Day!!

Nalungkot ako nung kausapin ko yung teacher
sinabihan ako na I don't think he's ready just yet.
I just feel really sad that Joshwa's Kumon teacher
said to just focus on the home program first.
Nalungkot talaga ako but I understood.
There's really a time and place for everything
for me this might be the right time pero baka di
pa panahon para kay Joshwa.

A Surprise

Philbert is really not big on surprises. He is not showy
and doesn't shower me with gifts. Even if I want to
or wished it.He's really not like that so imagine
my surprise when he installed an internet phone
on the laptop.So I can call my sister and sister in law.

Oh by the way might be going back to work
really soon.Won't disclose the company for now.
But will do so eventually..

ABA

Today was Joshwa's assessment for Applied Behavioral Analysis.

Supposed to be papasok na sya ng school but what can I say di

pa sya tinanggap kasi he's not as manageable. So we just need

to focus more on the behavior. The case manager also gave us

great points on what we need to do and what we need to

address. Maraming kami natutunan on what to do and what

not to do pagdating kay Joshwa.

 

Kaya lang nung magbabayad na I asked kung how much ang babayaran

ko. Akala ko 450 lang tapos yun pala may charge ang case manager

na 575. Nagulat ako pero what can I do. Saka had to give an advance

para dun sa mga gamit na gagamitin sa ABA. Para na rin akong

nagpa enroll.

Our First Born

1. WAS YOUR FIRST PREGNANCY PLANNED? No

2. WERE YOU MARRIED AT THE TIME? At that time that we found di pa kami kasal. But when I gave birth we were already married.

3. WHAT WERE YOUR REACTIONS? I was nervous and scared at the same time

4. WAS ABORTION AN OPTION FOR YOU? No

5. HOW OLD WERE YOU? I was 23

6. HOW DID YOU FIND OUT YOU WERE PREGNANT? I was late I took the test and that was it

7. WHO DID YOU TELL FIRST? Philbert

8. DID YOU WANT TO FIND OUT THE SEX? Yes

9. DUE DATE? Jan 20

10. DID YOU HAVE MORNING SICKNESS? No

11. WHAT DID YOU CRAVE? I was weird I would buy Mango and Santol

but I wouldn't eat them. I'd smell them and smell them then after a few hours ayoko na sya kainin.

12. WHO/WHAT IRRITATED YOU THE MOST? Philbert

13. WHAT WAS YOUR FIRST CHILD'S SEX? Male

14. DID YOU WISH YOU HAD THE OPPOSITE SEX OF WHAT YOU WERE GETTING?

Oh yes. I had a name in mind na nga eh . If naging girl sya her name would have been Sofia Alessandra.

Nung nalaman namin na boy saka pa lang ako nag isip ng name.

15. HOW MANY POUNDS DID YOU GAIN THROUGHOUT YOUR PREGNANCY?

Around 30 Lbs

16. DID YOU HAVE A BABY SHOWER? Sort of

17. WAS IT A SURPRISE OR DID YOU KNOW? I knew about it. It was my

birthday celebration But instead of people giving gifts to me. They gave gifts for the baby

18. DID YOU HAVE ANY COMPLICATIONS DURING YOUR PREGNANCY?

I had an easy pregnancy. No problems or complications during the pregnancy.

19. WHERE DID YOU GIVE BIRTH? Our Lady of Lourdes Hospital

20. HOW MANY HOURS WERE YOU IN LABOR? 18 hours .

21. WHO DROVE YOU TO THE HOSPITAL? My sister

22. WHO WATCHED YOU GIVE BIRTH? Just the doctors and nurses;

23. WAS IT NATURAL OR C-SECTION? C- Section

24. DID YOU TAKE MEDICINE TO EASE THE PAIN?

Yes. I needed a lot of Pain Meds.Kasi talagang Mababa ang

threshold ko pagdating sa pain

25. HOW MUCH DID YOUR CHILD WEIGH? 6lbs 6 oz

26. WHEN WAS YOUR CHILD ACTUALLY BORN? January 16

27. WHAT DID YOU NAME HIM/HER? Joshwa (God is Gracious) Dominik (after St. Dominic Savio)

Job Hunting Again??

Yes I'm job hunting again.. bahala na kung matanggap.
Hirap to be job hunting again pero ganun talaga di ba?
Pag nagka work ako will be posting about my
work woes once again