Memoir Monday 04: You, Before And After The Knot

EVERYTHING changes when you get married! You wouldn't think so, but it really does. 

I would admit that I didn't know what I was getting into before we got married. I really thought it would be easy I would be marrying the love of my life and that's happily ever after right??? NOT!! no one ever told me how to adjust how to give in, how to share with this stranger. Parens and Friends will never tell you how they learned how to deal with each other on a daily basis. How to resolve conflicts without walking out, crying and whinning to get what you want. In the end I was glad that I learned it on our own. Who knew that we could work out with each other that way.Going out of our comfort zone and Stretching our boundaries.

No I realize that the big difference before the marriage and after the  marriage that is Commitment. When you're dating as a a couple you have a certain level of commitment.In a marriage that the commitment is so much stronger and much more binding. It's some sort of deep feeling a sense of love security. The feeling that because it feels stronger I have to be even more careful not to get used to things and continue to make efforts and have him do the same. If it doesn't work out then you have to break up. But It is so different in a marriage you really have to try and work at it and work at it.